Does Your Therapist Say You Need to Get Worse Before You Get Better?

“Sometimes you get worse before you get better” is one of the cliches mostly used in psychodynamic therapy.

I heard those words from my therapists every time I complained about feeling worse, and many therapy clients have heard the same idea. It might have been expressed slightly differently but it carried the same message, which is that healing can start only when people face their pain and deal with it.  Continue reading “Does Your Therapist Say You Need to Get Worse Before You Get Better?”

Intimacy in Therapy: Reality or Dangerous Illusion?

It is widely accepted among psychotherapists and their clients that the relationship between a therapist and a client, or the so-called “therapeutic relationship”, is both intimate and professional at the same time. I believe, that “intimate” and “professional” dynamics cannot co-exist in the same relationship, but I also believe that it depends on how one defines “intimacy”.

Intimacy, like many other concepts, Continue reading “Intimacy in Therapy: Reality or Dangerous Illusion?”

Gaslighting in Therapy

hustle-and-bustle-494069_640If you Google the word “gaslighting,” here is what comes out as its definition: manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sanity.

Unfortunately, gaslighting (or in other words, crazymaking), is not an uncommon occurrence in therapy. Continue reading “Gaslighting in Therapy”

How Do I Know What Is And Isn’t Supposed To Happen In Therapy

counseling-99740_640Many times I’ve been contacted by people, who were currently in therapy and wanted to know if their therapists were doing the work competently and/or ethically. Such questions arose out of concerns about the specific actions or non-actions made by the therapists that didn’t seem consistent with what people believed the normal therapy process should entail. Continue reading “How Do I Know What Is And Isn’t Supposed To Happen In Therapy”